Tink or Buzz?

Editor's Note - We have known Laura for over 10 years as a computer systems integration business owner, entrepreneur, and prolific writer.

My husband gave me a Tinker Bell toy for Christmas. He wanted me to put in on my desk next to my Buzz Lightyear figure. When I asked why, he said that Tink and Buzz represent my two life philosophies. I have always been a big Tink and Buzz fan but never really thought about why. I started to think about it and fell in love with my husband all over again.

Let’s start with Buzz. His trademark phrase is “To Infinity and Beyond!” Every time I look at the figure on my desk I hear that phrase in my head and I know that I can do anything I set my mind to and that I need to believe that there are no limits to what I can achieve.

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Why, why, why...

Editor's Note - We have known Laura for over 10 years as a computer systems integration business owner, entrepreneur, and prolific writer.

If you are the parent of a five year old you probably feel that "Why" is the worst word in the English language. If you are feeling depressed you might use that word to say “why me?” If you are an entrepreneur you love that word because it lets you ask the questions, “Why do we have to do it that way? What can’t we do it differently and get a different result?” Depending on your perspective, the word evokes very different emotions.

I drove my parents crazy from an early age because I always wanted to know why something was the way it was. "Why do we have to do it that way? Why is the sky blue? Why is it called a chair? Why can’t I do that?" You get the drift. When they didn’t have the answer, they made me research it and then tell them what I had found out. This ended up being great training for me and enveloped my lifelong love of reading, research, learning and questioning.

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You already knew, only you did not want me to speak it

 I was watching a really old episode of Stargate SG-1 and that line was spoken.  The context was when one person was on trial for something he had done in the past and was being defended by another.  It got me thinking.  How many times do we know things but refuse to acknowledge them or reject them as false when someone else raises them up to us?

As a business owner and consultant I often had to tell clients things we discovered in their business that were not easy things to talk about.  And the reverse is I also had to hear things from staff and others that I did not want to hear.  One of the most difficult conversations I had to have with a client was when my staff told me the reason there were so many repeat problems on one of the computers there was due to an executive in the firm going to explicit websites.  They didn’t want to say anything to the client because they didn’t want to rock the boat. I had to weigh what the impact on our relationship with the client would be if we spoke up and also how it might affect their business if we did or didn’t speak up.

We talked for quite a while and you could see that they were finally ready to acknowledge the problem. Sadly, readiness happened after they spent a lot of money that did not need to be spent.  Has that ever been you?  Were you unwilling to face the reality of what someone was telling you because it would create friction, cause a confrontation with someone, or make you change something you were doing?  Did you know something about yourself that you refused to deal with because you did not want to admit you had a problem with it or with someone?

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What is wisdom?

Editor's Note - We have known Laura for over 10 years as a computer systems integration business owner, entrepreneur, and prolific writer.

We have wise old owls, wise women, wise men and Wise potato chips.  We look to our elders to impart their wisdom to us and we constantly look for mentors and peers who can add a little enlightenment to our everyday lives.  But what truly makes someone wise?  Webster’s dictionary defines wisdom as, “accumulated philosophic or scientific learning; ability to discern inner qualities and relationships; good sense; generally accepted belief.”

If wisdom is knowledge coupled with discernment, good sense and insight then I am only wise because of what I have learned and experienced.  Others are wise because of their experiences and knowledge.  What makes wisdom accepted by all is discernment that allows us, as individuals, to evaluate new information we are given and determine its validity and value.  A good example of this is not sticking your hand into fire because you will get burned.  Very few would argue it is not wise advice to follow.

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If it's common sense, why doesn't everyone do it?

Editor's Note - We have known Laura for over 10 years as a computer systems integration business owner, entrepreneur, and prolific writer.

I have heard and used the phrase, just common sense more times than I can count. Yet if it truly was common sense, why would we ever have to use that phrase on someone? Think about it. Common sense implies that it is common and all around us. No deep thinking. Just reach out and grab some and use it. If sense was common then we would not need experts, consultants or any other advice givers because we would all know how to do things.

Granted a lot of life requires specific skills to navigate around certain jobs and such but a lot of what needs to get handled on a daily basis really just requires basic knowledge of how things work, common courtesies and logical thought. Eureka, a show on the SyFy Network, really demonstrates the laws of common sense not being so common.

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